Cutting one’s skin is a cry for attention and help

Many things happen behind closed doors and in private, sometimes
going completely unnoticed or unimaginable. One of those things is
self-harm, such as cutting, which occurs much more often than people
would expect.

Every year, one in five females and one in seven males engage in
self-injurious behavior. About 90 percent of those who participate in
self-harm began during their pre-teen or teenage years.

Approximately two million cases are reported annually in the U.S.
Imagine how many cases there actually are, since a majority of the cases
go unreported.

When cutting occurs, it usually manifests as horizontal scars across
the lower arms (as in the picture) and upper thighs. These are both
areas that can easily be covered with clothing.

Cutting isn’t the only form of self-harm that can be done. Other
types of harm that can be self-inflicted and warning signs to look out
for include:

  • Burning
  • Picking at or reopening wounds
  • Punching or hitting oneself
  • Inserting objects into the skin
  • Purposely bruising or breaking one’s bones
  • Pulling out one’s hair

There are several myths about cutting and other forms of self-harm,
which are important to recognize, understand, and even debunk.

First, cutting isn’t considered an attempt at suicide. According to the Diagnostic Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), the authoritative guide for doctors, cutting is considered a non-suicidal self-injury disorder.

Second, it is not a mental illness. Cutting is a behavior indicating a
lack of coping skills for emotional pain, intense anger and
frustration. Even though self-injury brings a brief feeling of calm, it
is usually followed by guilt, shame, and the return of painful emotions.
This destructive cycle can become addictive to the point that it
becomes a compulsive behavior and difficult to stop.

There are a great many reasons why people engage in cutting. It can
be triggered by someone’s social environment. An overwhelming amount of
stress can lead someone to feel like there’s no way out or to feel so
empty that the only emotional release is through inflicting pain.

What you can do:

In order to help prevent someone from harming themselves, it helps to
understand the risk factors and to be aware of red flags of secretive
behavior. Risk factors include, but are not limited to:

  • Age (teenagers and young adults most common, although it can happen at any age)
  • Having friends who self-injure
  • Abuse (sexual, physical or emotional)
  • Social isolation/ loneliness
  • Mental health issues (i.e., borderline personality disorder, eating
    disorders, depression, anxiety disorders, substance abuse, conduct, and
    oppositional defiant disorders)

Common signs and symptoms might include:

  • Parallel linear scars on the arms
  • Fresh cuts, scratches, bruises or other wounds
  • Possession of sharp objects, like a razor
  • Difficulties with relationships
  • Persistent questions about personal identity, such as “Who am I?” and “What am I doing here?”
  • Emotional and behavioral instability, impulsivity and unpredictability
  • Statements of helplessness, hopelessness or worthlessness

Each of us has a responsibility to look out for friends, family and
acquaintances for any signs or suspicions of self-harm and to offer help
and support during whatever is compelling someone to hurt themselves.
If you have a friend, loved one or acquaintance who is self-injuring or
has revealed thoughts about self- harm, you must take it seriously.

You may feel shocked, scared, or even feel you’re betraying their
privacy. However, this is too big of a problem to ignore, and their
safety and well-being are the most important considerations.

If you know anyone injuring themselves, suggest they reach out to
someone they trust, such as their parents, friends, teachers, a
counselor, a physician or spiritual leader. Furthermore, always keep the
suicide hotline number close by: 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255). If
you find yourself in an emergency situation, this requires a quicker
but, most importantly, calm response by calling 911 or other local
emergency numbers.

Do not condemn or criticize anyone who has cut themselves for their
behavior. What they need most is support and healthy coping skills
rather than added negativity.

Preventing self-harm should be the utmost goal. There’s no fool-proof
way to do so, but there are various avenues that can be taken to
curtail it, including many seemingly small things anybody can do to look
out for others and make a real difference.

Help is available

If you have ever harmed or currently harm yourself in any way, or if
you’ve had suicidal thoughts, remember one thing: You can overcome
almost any challenge. If you have injured yourself and believe your
injury is life-threatening in any way, immediately call 911 or the
suicide hotline.

Most importantly, reach out to somebody, anybody. If you can’t talk
to your family members, talk to your doctor. If the doctor is not
available, there is always help available at the hospital’s emergency
room. Be it family, friend, minister or doctor, there is always someone
there to help you. Please reach out.

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